Day 166 "extended"
I just got off the phone with my Mom and I just wanted to express whats going through my mind on my "journal". Feel free to comment if ya like :) Spoke with the original "Mama" for about 2 hrs this evening and really went "back" with her. Remember when I went rambling on about how strong my mom is and what she means to me earlier in my blogfessions? Well she made me realize how strong she is today without her really trying too. The conversation began with me coming back in a few weeks (yay!?. Then we went back into the past about our first "vivid" memory of our early childhood. I started out my memory with when I was around 3 yrs old wearing a bright red shirt with dirty blue overalls with a dinged up lunch pale in my right hand. Before I got any deeper into the memory, she told me EXACTLY what happened that day as if it was yesterday. Event after event, as if she was reading my mind at that moment. Right there told me how much she really means to me. I know mothers are suppose to know their kids well in all but what she remembered at that very moment means soooo much to me right now. Then after that happened, she told me her first vivid memory. Im not gonna bore ya with what she said hehe, but again she made me realize too that we are more than just mother and son...we are like best friends. Granted, Ive always seen my Mom as someone special besides being my mother, but she respects me soooo much more than I thought she did. Dyan, do you remember our conversation a few days back? About being friends with your son and daughters? I just want to let you know that it means ALOT more than u think it does treating us like friends besides the mother-daughter scenerio. Knowing Vanessa, she probably thinks Im being way too sappy right about now (I probably am but this is my blogfession!) but this is whats on my mind right now. I dont know if being over here made me this emotional or what not, but its coming out like a rainbow after a rain shower! lol My Mom and I had alot more than that to talk about but I will share one more part of that conversation with you. As you all know, Im taking my mother to Las Vegas July 5th-11th. We talked about our vacation and how we both need it in all. Just to let ya all know, my mother LOVES the nickel slots (lol) So this story will only make sense if I mention that hehe. Anywho, my mother and her best friend from work had this past Friday off and they decided they wanted to drive to Charleston, Wva for the day and just let loose. They both were coming in with only $50 a piece to gamble with now mind you :) Well her best friend ended up winning like $100 extra dollars and my mom hit the nickel slots for FIVE minutes and came out with $350! NICKEL slots I remind you lol But what made me wanna just hug and kiss her at that very moment she was telling me this, was how happy she was just winning in the first place. I wish you could all just hear her giggle and laugh about how happy she was at her little nickel slot machine :) God bless her. This woman would have been perfectly happy just winning a few dollars. It does not take her much at all to have a smile from cheek to cheek on her face. Honestly, I can go on and on and on about her but I just simply dont have the time to tell you all lol. So Ill end this blogfession with this; As much as you may be angry with your mom or dad at times, remember what they did for you when you needed them the most. Not gonna lie to you, there has been times like that with me, but I will ALWAYS remember...I have never been so close to my mother than I am now. If being 12000 miles away in an open, disgustingly hot desert being shot at every other day made me realize this notion, then so be it :) Thanks for listening to me.

11 Comments:
You are such a good son Ricky.
You touched the very core of my heart. I understand 100% of what you just poured out. Why? because I am mom too.
Also I believe that is the way God intends for us to be. He deposits something deep down in our very spirit that only our child or children can touch upon. Isn't that the way we are supposed to learn? By God and His relationship with His son? I think it's a start.
Meanwhile, I am so touched when I hear a child speak about their mother like that. Or vice versa. Some things Ricky I even tell my children...... "you will only understand when you have your own children" Has your mom ever said that to you? Well, dear Ricky, I think you are beginning to learn.
Even way before you have your own children.
It seems to me that you have grown up even more the last few months.. A revelation like what you have just had about your mom is precious. Dont ever lose it. Dont ever take it for granted. One day you will only have those memories. I can attest to that.
Since I lost my mom, I only have the memories, but you know what? It reminds me every day how powerful love really is. I am exhuberant with joy to see your heart has captured your mom 12,000 miles away, knowing that it is just a matter of a few weeks before you get to hold her again.
And Ricky, kudos for the weepy eyed story. It just shows you are a man who is not afraid to be vulnerable with your emotions. We appreciate the trust you have with us to see you like that.
Anyway, believe it or not. Vanessa has been known to be that musshy too. She is putting on the fierce soldier role now. But you know why Ricky. You where there at times too. Every soldier is. It is their way of training you up and she has to figure out who to be vulnerable with and who to be fierce with. Right?
She left by the way. She was alot of fun. She had a ball on the boat. I can send you by e mail the pix. Want to see them?
Meanwhile, again Ricky, I am so proud of you. I am so happy that your mama is the best . Iam also even more proud that you put me part way up there just by calling me ma. I know I will never have the same bond as your ma. But........... if its all the same to you, I beam with pride when I hear you talk about her. So continue on. Tell me more stories it is anything but boring to me. YOU ARE SUCH A GOOD BOY
while on a mushy note........
I am already missing my Vanessa so much. I am going to go and cry now. Bye bye.
Whew! *tear* *tear* Ricky I knew you were great but I just realized how wonderful you really are!! It takes a real man to tell an "emotional" story and although I already knew that you were truly a Man of Honor,I now know that you are a "true" Man. It's so hard to find guys these days that express their feelings..and it is sooo great that you can..and you don't care what anyone thinks :-) I love that. B/C I am the same way..I tell it how it is, how I am feeling..no lies here..So yea.. About the mother-son..mother-daughter thing..I have a biological mother that I look at as a friend..that's a long story..but that is how I get myself to be semi-close to her..It hurts sometimes to think of my childhood..but I have good memories and bad memories..and NO pity here..I am who I am today b/c of it..then I have my Aunt Danielle, my MOTHER..she took me, my brother and my sister in at once about 10yrs. ago. She is an extraordinary women!! Not many women out there that would take 3 of their brothers kids all at once and raise them as their own..they thought it was too late for us "twins" but look at us now is all I have to say!! We all turned out well..No1 is perfect, but you know what I mean...As I have gotten older I have realized why she was so tough on us growing up..and Ricky you are right..we all have those moments with our mothers..the grrr moments..lol..but I also have great moments with her. I realize now how great she is!! I admire and look up to her and although I do wish we were closer, I do like the semi~bond we have always had. At times I just hope that she understands how much she is loved and appreciated..and it took me going away to college to realize how much I really appreciated her and all that..ok well enough of all that! Ricky you hit a soft spot in my heart too..haha..and I just kept going..sry to keep going on and on..whew! I went back in my past too..lol..it's all good..I am sure it's ok..Well I am gonna get going..talk to everyone later..much love..talk soon :-)..
Nicole xoxo
PS and Ricky, I agree so much w/everything you have said!!! You are so great!! Can't wait until you come back to the states :-) Yippee..countdown is on..bye for now!
haha..look at me getting all mushy..lol..but that is in my nature :-) We are all entitled to our moments :-) Later..
I think Nicole you are having a healing moment. That is what it seems there. I as a mother cannot fathom what can create a situation like waht you have and had with your original mother. All I can say is to be honest with yourself about what actually occured and had so much power over your mom to cause an unnatural effect on her children. To have to take over another womans child or children only makes me guess . You may take a lifetime to figure it all out. In the meantime I hope you learn to stay away from the forces that have seemed to capture your mom. And cling to the positive relationship you have managed to build with Danielle. It seems to me that you are right on track. I hope you can share with others down the road that you can help and relate to. Anyway It is memorial day and .........
Our president gave a tearful and perfect speach. I was so moved. I will share more later. Right now I have to do some errands. I hope Nicole you didnt mind me sharing my thoughts with you. I hope it helped. Or at least encouraged you. Bye for now. Love mama
I spelled speech wrong........ back to the drawing board.
Ricky-
YOu and you rmom are blessed to have eachother. I"m sure she is as proud to have you as you are her. You are such a sweetheart...lol. So- i'm not going to get all sappy though *sniffle*
Anyway- i have to go help my mom with the barbecue...hopefully we wont blow ourselves up- lol- we're not very good with it.
Happy Memorial Day luv- talk to you soon...
Dyan and Nicole- how are my girls doing these days??? Nicole i will call you asasp- i hav been crazy busy this week...kinda self inflicted..lol.
Oh Faith please don't go and blow yourselves up. No no no...
It reminds me of a funny story.
About 15 years ago I had a grill and I hadn't used it in 3 years. So I had a neighbor check the gas, there was some left. No problem. I decided to give it a go. You would never believe. It was somehow defective and didnt blow up but blew sky high abuot what seemed to be a mile in the air. (it wasnt but it seemed it) anyway I saw it grow and grow. With apparently no stopping. So I ran to get someone to stop it. Apparently because it hadnt been used in so long something was amiss. Anyway, moral to the story is ........... cook away. First check your connections ............. Please. If you don't know how to do that.. (Which I do not) then pray........
Big.
Have a great day...........
Wow! That's really powerful! I have some sudden memory fly into my head at some random moments too! Only then it doesn't seem powerful, it just seems random.
Be careful out there! Come back home safe and sound, ya hear?
Read my blog if you get a chance:
http://moviemkr7.blogspot.com/
HAPPY MEMORIAL DAY EVERYONE!! MUCH LOVE!!
~Nicole xoxo
I am just taking it easy today, I babysat from 8am-1pm and then showered..was going to go to a cook-out but it decided to rain. It's all good though..I am just relaxin..good ole summa class starts June 6th..woohoo!
Dyan ~ Thanks for your words and they never bother me. Just so you know I am very happy and content w/the relationships I have and have built w/my family and friends. Things can always be better and that is what I work on..O and also I am not trying to figure things out, it only makes me crazy..what happened happened and I am who I am today b/c of it..enough said about all that..mmm k well I am outtie..I think I want a snowball..lol..and Dyan also I love the kitchen :-)
Ricky~ hope ur taking it easy :-) As always you are in my thoughts and prayers!! Muah!! Later
Great Nicole, you are a smart woman. I couldnt have said it better myself. I just don't know you that well so I thought I would interject a thought. You beat me to it. You go girlie. You and I are going to get along just fine. Plus you have me as an extra mom now if you want. I love my kiddies. Check your e mail too. You will think I have cracked up for sure... Love all. Have a happy day. Mike and I also went out to eat because it looked like rain. We went to a great steak place that has Ricky, Faith and Nicole's welcome mat ordered. If you know what I mean ... Come on by I will treat you to the finest of steak. On the lake. Hey, steak on the lake. I got something...............
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